The world is full of a diverse range of people. However, with such diversity, it can still be hard to make people like you and be interested in you. Many people in life, travel their journey and still struggle to fit in or be accepted by those around them. If you’re one of these people and you want to get people to like you more or be interested in you, this expert guide will give you the key elements on what you need to implement in your life, so you can gain more interest from those around you. Let’s take a look now:
1. Change your attitude
If you’ve been in situations where you’ve met a lot of people but no-one seems to like you or be interested in you, then it’s time to analyse yourself and your attitude. It’s not uncommon for people to have developed an attitude across their experiences in life. However, if you’re unaware of the attitude, you’ll find that more and more people will shy away from you instead of wanting to talk to you. Take a look at whether you’re warm, friendly and inviting or whether you’re shut-off, stiff, and defensive. If you find you’re not very warm or friendly, it may be time to try and work on it. It’s important to remember that not everyone is out to get you, you can let some people into your life, especially if you really, truly care about them.
2. Listen to what people have to say
People like other people when they want to listen to what they have to say. While it may not be of interest to you, listening to a person’s conversation and showing interest is a good way to break the ice and make friends. Listening is powerful and is key to making solid relationships, both friends and family. After you’ve listened to what they have to say, try to add some constructive conversation that relates to what they have to say. This will help to improve your chances of becoming liked more. Don’t be one of these people who talk only about themselves and doesn’t care about what the other person is talking about.
3. Be positive
Positivity is powerful, and this power can help to improve your ability to gain interest from people. There are many negative people in the world, however, if you work on becoming positive, the positivity will shine through and will make the people around you feel positive as well. If people talk to you about a problem, instead of saying ‘oh no’ say ‘what about if’. By changing negative conversation into positive conversation, you have a higher chance of really attracting like-minded people.
4. Laugh often
You may have heard, laughter is the best medicine? This is true. People who laugh more tend to have more friends around them. This is because they are positive, happy, and are more caring and friendly to those around them. They make people feel good about themselves. It’s an instant like from many people. Don’t be afraid to also laugh at yourself as well if you know you’ve done something funny. Laughing also helps to release stress and helps to attract others who also love to enjoy life.
5. Show positive body language
Many people don’t realise but they give off different body language signals that signal they don’t want to talk or they don’t like certain social situations. Body language is a strong indicator for some as to whether to approach you or not. Next time you’re in a social situation, take note of your body language. Do you have your arms crossed, are you facing away from the crowd or are you laughing, talking while moving your hands, or relaxed instead of being rigid and uncomfortable. Giving positive body language signs can help to really improve your chances of gaining more interest in from other like-minded people.
If you want to get people to like you, you need to be aware of how you present yourself in social situations. Also, by analysing your attitude, body language, to just relaxing and being positive, you have great potential to really improve your chances of being liked and having people interested in you. So, are you going to try these different key elements?
If you enjoyed this post, feel free to share it with your friends and family. After all, sharing is caring!
Author: Todd Griffin
Todd is the Director and Principal Psychologist at TG Psychology, in Penrith, NSW. He has over 14 years of experience working with adults and young people in both public health and private practice settings. He has treated people from diverse cultural backgrounds, with a variety of emotional health and behavioural issues, including: depression, anxiety, relationship issues, anger, addictions, trauma and grief. He has also facilitated a number of group programs, treating a wide range of issues: from quitting cannabis, to social skills training, self-esteem development and deliberate self-harm behaviours.